When it comes to love, I want the best. I want a real man with strong values and very desirable qualities. It was important for me to put my "requirements" down in words (so I made a list a long time ago and put it away where I could refer to it) stating what I wanted in a man. It is easy to get lonely or bored and let our emotions take over from time to time. I do not have to settle. I can and I will wait for him...the one that complements me, makes my spine tingle and whose soul speaks to mine.
So many times people think that that their life is going to be complete, and that they will finally achieve happiness when they meet and fall in love with somebody. This is a common, yet very dangerous misconception. Baggage can be completely detrimental to a relationship if either individual can not cope with the past issues. I am adamant to be with a whole person and to be whole myself. I thoroughly believe that two whole people make the strongest relationship, not two dependent people.
As for waiting...it may be tomorrow, it may be six months from now...it may be five years from now, yet I fervently believe that a good thing is worth waiting for. There are some individuals who want to be with somebody so badly that they will be with anybody. I am not satisfied with second best. Through experience, research, and lengthy discussions with intelligent people I understand value of this issue. Hearts are not to be toyed with, an emotional connection is not a game to play, but instead it should not be entered into lightly. When a relationship is right it is RIGHT. When it is wrong, it is WRONG. Many times we contort and twist our perceptions make the situation out to be what we perceive as right, but it is still wrong. Wrong relationships crumble. Not always immediately… We shouldn't have to talk ourselves into love or make excuses for the one that we are with. If it is there, there is no denying it. It is out of this world! The one that we love should make us feel spectacular. S/he should be attentive and interested from the beginning and it should never stop growing. Relationships change and mature, they grow and develop. I’m definitely waiting…
Communication is the very most essential core of our relationships. Friendships, professional, boy/girl, family, spiritual...it's all built on our ability to effectively communicate with one another. Relationships thrive on and are broken by communication or lack of it. I am fascinated with relationships between individuals. Communication is that core. Problems begin when there is a breakdown in this communication. Other problems escalate due to our lack of knowledge on how to effectively communicate our needs, desires and feelings.
Coupled with communication, education is crucial for a successful relationship. Had I known what I know now ten years ago, I would have made many different choices. (I realize that I am who I am today due to my decisions and I accept them and have learned from them). I am not just talking about book smarts. The way we interact with others and our communication reflects immensely on who we are. I notice a selfish cycle in human behavior. Many people do not know how to treat others with respect, kindness and compassion. I do not share the same views with everybody, but it is my goal to make people feel good when they are around me.
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